When reviewing or commenting, you can only judge by what is actually said, not by intent.
That pretty much sums up my whole point, and much more succinctly. Thank you.
I do agree that a lot of people will take offense at anything, and I don't think you (generic you) can expect to say anything without offending someone. I also think there's a difference between opening a discussion about controversial topics which will draw fire from people on all the sides and trying to verbally attack people, and then trying to protect yourself by saying that's not what you meant.
Of course, I can't say that's what the original poster meant, either side of it, but it seemed to come across negatively to a lot of people. Which is where I'm back to my original point, that it doesn't much matter how the OP meant it if most people take it a different way. (Not that it doesn't matter to the OP how zie meant it, but if that's not how it's being read, something is wrong with the presentation to the assumed audience.)
That must have been frustrating. I don't understand why people, who know that you gave detailed, straight criticism, expected you to just give them a blanket approval. What made them so special that you should change how you did things? People are strange.
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That pretty much sums up my whole point, and much more succinctly. Thank you.
I do agree that a lot of people will take offense at anything, and I don't think you (generic you) can expect to say anything without offending someone. I also think there's a difference between opening a discussion about controversial topics which will draw fire from people on all the sides and trying to verbally attack people, and then trying to protect yourself by saying that's not what you meant.
Of course, I can't say that's what the original poster meant, either side of it, but it seemed to come across negatively to a lot of people. Which is where I'm back to my original point, that it doesn't much matter how the OP meant it if most people take it a different way. (Not that it doesn't matter to the OP how zie meant it, but if that's not how it's being read, something is wrong with the presentation to the assumed audience.)
That must have been frustrating. I don't understand why people, who know that you gave detailed, straight criticism, expected you to just give them a blanket approval. What made them so special that you should change how you did things? People are strange.