I'm pretty much in the middle on this. I'm not particularly close to anyone on either side of the "discussion", though I can definitely understand why those labeled BNFs are upset and why their friends are upset.

I do think the OP handled the writing badly, unless zie was going for attention, and then zie should have been prepared for the wide range of responses. If you're going to throw gasoline on the fire, you can't be surprised when it burns too hot, you know.